How to Tell if a Sensual Massage Client will No-Show

When I first started in this industry the no show rate was around 40%. Two out of every five clients didn't bother to even let me know they weren't coming. It's the most frustrating thing after you've just dropped everything you were doing, re-arraigned your day, put on all your makeup, shaved your legs, set up the massage area, lit the candles and straightened up your house, only to have some jackass stand you up. These days I am extremely picky about who I will and will not see. I rarely get stood up, maybe one out of every 25-30. That's closer to a 3-4% no show rate. So I am going to share with you my tricks.

Honestly it wears on my soul because it dehumanizes me. It makes me feel like a plastic trinket that can be just throw away without regard for how I feel.

These days I am extremely picky about who I will and will not see. I rarely get stood up, maybe one out of every 25-30. That's closer to a 3-4% no show rate. So I am going to share with you my tricks.

Texts like "Available?" or "Hey" are instant no's for me. I realize I may lose out on the occasional client this way but if you can't take the time out of your day to type out a full sentence then you probably aren't the type of person I want to give my energies to anyway. Also, text like this imply the person doesn't think very highly of me. I am generally booked quite far in advance. A last minute text asking if I'm available right now implies the sender thinks I desperately waiting around in my underwear hoping for his precious business. I am not desperate and I don't appreciate being treated this way.

If a client messages me at 3AM to see if I have time to see him tonight I do not consider that a valid lead when I get the text the next morning. This guy was horney at 3am, maybe drunk, and even if he sets something up with me for daytime hours it is not likely he will still be horney or uninhibited enough to still keep his appointment.

Questions like "What are your rates?" or "Where are you located?" imply one of two things. Either they have not clearly read my ad or they have just texted a few girls and have forgotten which one I am. I reply answering the question but also saying, "The answer to that question plus many more, like which services I do and do not provide, can be found on my website. Please be sure to have a look before booking a time with me." And then I include the link. If they ask a second question that is answered online I simply do not respond. If a person cannot be bothered to read the information I spent time and effort to provide then they clearly don't respect my time. They are likely not to respect my time when it comes time for their appointment either.

Sometimes guys want me to wear something special or rub them in a certain way or any number of special requests. I don't mind having this discussion in person and accommodating when I can. But to have this discussion over text message implies the client has expectations for the massage. I am in charge of the session not the client. This might sound bitchy but I have to be in the position of power for my own safety. I provide the services stated on my website and if client doesn't like it he can book with someone else. Once the client starts negotiating they feel I need their business and they can tell me what to do. It is not a power struggle I'm willing to get into. A person who feels he is better than me is likely not to show up and if he does he is likely to be a very difficult or potentially dangerous client to deal with.

Another reason they may be making these request is because they are fantasizing and pleasuring themselves while texting me. I don't work for free and I don't need to waste my time.

I am a human, humans don't go on clearance. If I want the top of the line new iPhone I don't expect to get a discount. If I really value something I am willing to save my money until I can afford it. People who will not see me unless I lower my prices are not people who value my services. They are likely not to respect my time either.

Sometimes it goes like this,

Client: "Hello, I'd like to make an appointment today."

Me: "Okay, I can see you at 2pm?"

Client: "Great. Address?"

At this point I'm suspicious. I have nothing to go one. So I send a longer text message back asking for at least three things. If they can answer all three simple questions then I go ahead and schedule the appointment. Something like this:

Me: "Great, how long of an appointment would you like? Can I get your first name please? Which website did you find me on?"

You'd be surprised how many guys can't take the time to answer those questions or don't read my text all the way through. If they can't follow simple directions how can I expect them to find my house and show up on time?

If I schedule an appointment for a future date I let the client know I will be texting them on the morning of their appointment to confirm and I will send the address at that point. On the morning of the appointment I text the client early asking if he still plans to come at his scheduled time. At this point I frequently don't get a response. (About one out of every four or five will not respond or will say he's sorry but he has to cancel.) If they confirm then I send the address. I never plan my day around future appointments until they are confirmed the morning of.

Anyone who has no-showed or canceled without advanced notice gets stored in my phone as either "no show" or "late cancel". I never again respond to messages from these numbers. That might sound cold or bitchy but I've learned the hard way. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!

If something about my conversation makes me feel anything less than respected and valued, even if I can't quite put my finger on why, I trust that icky feeling inside me and I do not take the appointment. The bottom line is that I need to value myself and my services. Then and only then can I recognize when I'm being treated below my standards and be able to stand up for myself before a problem happens. There are ALWAYS more clients out there. I do not ever need to compromise my time, self respect or safety for the sake of making a buck.